Book How To Be A Lady

the peach scene… when i met tilda swinton about four years ago, it was at a dinner event. and i was introduced to her, andshe turned to me and she said, "oh! the peach scene!" now, there had been no script, there had been no screenplay yet… but she had obviously read the book and the first thing that impressed her was the peach scene. so the peach scene is, i think, very essential… partly because it’s so shocking, but also, at the same time, because it is the most intimate moment between the two men.

in the book, oliver eats the peach and he says "because i want every part of you… if you’re going to die, i want part of you to stay with me in my system, and that’s the way i’m going to do it." so, it is a very powerful moment. "please don’t do that.""you want to see something sick?" in the film, he just puts his finger andalmost licks it and that is good enough for cinema — we don’t need to see more. "why are you doing this to me?" "what are you doing? you’re fucking hurting me!""then don’t fight…"

what is absolutely superlative — it’s one of the most moving moments in the film, is that as the as the two men/boys are struggling with each other… one wants to eat the peach, the other one wants to sort of grab it away from him, to prevent him from doing so… at some point elio will say, "you’re hurting me!" and he says "let go then!" says oliver, at which point elio just breaks down and cries. and he says "i don’t want you to go…" "i don’t want you to go…" it’s a magnificent moment, but the filmdoes this all the time.

it takes a very physical, almost lustymoment, and finds its emotional equivalent right away, so that it never allows you to dwell on the physical without ever giving you also the emotional counterpoint to it.

Book Review A Gentleman In Moscow

-fred, we’ve talked about this. i’m in awe ofhow prolific you are. you’re always working onnew projects. you’re making television shows that are so uniqueand different. i’m such a fan of your work. but you were saying backstagethe cost to you personally is you no longer have time to read books, to read novels,to read fiction.

-yeah, i just don’t geta chance. -and i was saying, "oh, i’mheartbroken on your behalf," and you said, "don’t be,"because you have developed a process, according to you,where you can look at the cover of a book and know everythingabout it. -yes. -you know the full plot,all the characters. -and you enjoy itexactly as much as if you’d read the whole book.

-always. yes. -and you’ve never failed. you’ve never looked at a cover and gotten the ploteven a little bit wrong. -never.-wow. -it’s always worked out, yes. -do you think we could try ithere for everybody? -sure. why not? -all right, one more time.

fred judges a book by its cover. ♪♪ very excited to try this, we go. this is "alaskan holiday"by debbie macomber. -oh, yeah,, debbie macomber, she wrote this book"alaskan holiday." -so that’s a thingi think everybody would know bylooking at the cover. -and it’s about this optometrist

who decided to have a verydifferent kind of eye exam. and this optometrist,who was a guy, was like, "i’m gonna dosomething where there are dogs, different kinds of dogsall over the place, and we’ll see if people can recognize what kind of dogit is." but he sort of bunched them upall in the middle and towards the bottom. [ laughter ]

so, people would come in — by the way,this is fiction, naturally. and so people would come inand they’d go like — he’d be like, "what do you see?" they’d be like,"i see three dogs." so he thoughteveryone had perfect vision. he’s like,"people have been cured. we no longer need glasses." he had all the glasses smashedaround the world.

and it took a decade. and at the end he realizes,"oh, i should’ve done different distances anddifferent sizes for the dogs," and the story continues. it’s sort of open-ended. and he went on an alaskanholiday to sort of rethink about how he’s gonna do his eye tests. -so, this almost soundspost-apocalyptic. it’s a world where all glasseshave been destroyed.

-yeah! -could i — and, by the way, this sounds likean incredible book. and i’m not saying you’re wrong. but can i read what you thepublisher says this is about? -if you need to. -before beginning her dream jobas a sous-chef in one of seattle’s hottestnew restaurants, josie avery takes a summerposition cooking

at a lakeside lodge in theremote town of ponder, alaska. while there, she falls for thequiet and intense palmer saxon, a famed master swordsmith. -and they go to the vision test. -oh!-they take it, yes. -i apologize.-yeah. -give it up for fred armisen,everybody!

Book How To Be A Hacker

flow genome project – what we’ve discoveredwhen people want more flow in their lives, the number one thing we can tell them is thatthere is a flow cycle. so the old idea about flow was that it was a binary. it was likea light switch. you were either in the zone or you were out of the zone. what we now knowis that flow is a four part cycle and you have to move through all four parts of thecycle before you can return to the flow state itself. the neurobiology of the flow cycleand the actual research came out of herb benson’s work at harvard. he kind of laid the foundationfor it. but what we’ve discovered is at the front end of the flow state there’sa struggle phase. this is a loading phase. you are loading, then overloading the brainwith information. for a baseball player this

is learning to swing a bat at a ball. fora writer planning a new book. this is when you’re doing interviews. this is when you’rereading, it’s when you’re diagramming structure and things like that. it’s veryunpleasant as a general rule. so even though flow may be the most desirable and pleasantstate on earth, the actual flow cycle itself starts with a very unpleasant state knownas struggle. from struggle you move into release. thisliterally means you want to take your mind off the problem. so what happens in flow iswe are trading conscious processing which is slow, has very limited ram, right, theworking memory can only hold about four items at once, and is very energy inefficient. forsubconscious processing which his extremely

fast and is very energy efficient and haspretty much endless ram. so to do that you have to move from struggle, you have to let– stop thinking about what you were trying to think about basically. you take your mindoff the problem, you go for long walks, gardening works very well, building models works very,very well. albert einstein famously used to row a boat into the middle of lake genevaand stare at the clouds, right. once you can take your mind off the problem and, by theway, one of the only things that you can’t do to move through release is watch actually changes your brainwaves in a way that it will block flow. but once you movefrom release there’s actually underneath the surface neurobiologically there’s aglobal release of nitric oxide which is a

gas of signaling molecules found everywherein the body. this flushes all the stress hormones out of your system and replaces them withkind of feel good performance enhancing neurochemicals like dopamine and anandamide and serotoninand endorphins which underpin the flow state as well. you’re in the flow state. thisis the third stage in the struggle. and on the back end of the flow state there is actuallya recovery phase. and this is really, really, really critical. so you go from this amazinghigh of flow to a very deep low that shows up in recovery. a lot of this is that allthose feel good neurochemicals have drained out of your system. it takes certain vitamins and minerals andsunlight and things like that to rebuild them.

so the recovery phase on the back end of theflow state is actually very, very unpleasant as well. and if you really want to hack flowyou need to learn how to struggle better and you need to learn how to recover better. andone of the most important things in recovery is you have to – you need some emotionalfortitude, some grit. you have to basically hold on to your emotions, not get stressedout at the fact that you know longer feel like superman. and the main reason – welltwo reasons for this is one, if you get too stressed out and feeling low you’re goingto start producing cortisol. a little bit is fine, too much of it blocks the acceleratedlearning that comes with flow. so you will actually get the short term benefit of theflow state itself but you won’t get the

long term benefit, the accelerated learningthat you get in flow. the other problem is if you have to move from recovery back intostruggle and you’re bummed out at no longer being in flow during the recovery phase, it’svery hard to get up for the difficult fight of struggle that follows.

Book How To Be A Good Dad

napoleon hill says you can “think and growrich.” but if you’ve been brought up like most people with “work and you won’t starve,”this will make you uncomfortable. you might think, “that’s just stupid! it can’tbe that easy!” and even though the only way you’ll ever be rich is by thinking,it’s the hardest work there is. let’s take a look at my videos. everythingi do can be outsourced. i can pay a dollar to a guy across the world to animate my video.i can pay a few dollars for a ten times more pleasing voice-over. i could even outsourcelittle things like uploading my videos for a few cents to people who will gladly do it.the only thing i cannot outsource is my thoughts. i cannot outsource my mindset for what needsto be animated and what needs to be said.

again, if i were to outsource it, the animationcan be valued at a single dollar, a voice-over can be valued at a few dollars, all the littlelogistics can be valued at a few cents, but the value my thoughts can generate is literallyonly limited by my imagination. there are millions of people around the worldwho work 12-hour-days at horrible jobs and make less money than if i were to sit back,do nothing, and let my tiny youtube channel i created a couple of months ago make moneyon its own, and all because i was willing to think. there’s no way you can read andget paid for it, right? right. if you look for a job that will pay you for reading yourfavorite books, you probably won’t find one. if you think however, turns out the amountof opportunities is only limited by your imagination.

again, the only advantage i have over theguy willing to animate my video for a dollar is my thoughts. it’s kind of crazy whenyou think about it that way. if he knew what to animate instead of how to animate, he wouldn’tbe making a dollar for every hundred dollars he makes for someone else.however, thinking has no value to most people. in fact, it’s associated with laziness.when i graduated, every time i talked to my mom, she would ask me, “have you startedworking at a good job?” and i would say, “no, i’m actually thinking about whati’m going to do.” and she would say, “okay, but you need to work.” and the reason sheis acting that way is because next time she sees her friends, she wants to say, “myson works at a bank,” not “my son has

been thinking a lot.” the latter has novalue to her friends. but let’s not ask my mom’s friends about growing rich; let’sask a man who personified growing rich. henry ford said, “thinking is the hardestwork there is, which is probably the reason why so few engage in it.” if you think fordis just being poetic, let me give you a little challenge. next time you have a day off fromyour 9 to 5, spend the 8 hours thinking in your room instead. no phone, no facebook,no bullshit. just sit in your room quietly and think. in about 5 minutes, most peoplewill start wishing they were back at their 9 to 5.

Book How To Be A Girl

dear girl, this book is foryou- wonderful, smart, beautiful you. dear girl, keep that arm raised,you have smart things to say. dear girl, look at yourself in the mirror, say thank you to something that makes you,you. dear girl,sometimes you just need a good cry. dear girl,don’t ever lose your sense of wonder. dear girl,sometimes you just gotta stop and dance. dear girl, a tree trunk is the perfectplace for quiet thoughts to be thunk. most of all, dear girl i love, know thatyou can always, always, always turn to me.

a celebration of wonderful,smart, beautiful you. [music]

Book Review 50 Shades Of Grey

please donâ´t hate me you will never do that to me again iâ´m not what you want no,you are everything that i want i falled in love with you no,no ana you canâ´t love me i need you to leave please iâ´d like my car back

taylor already sold it then iâ´d like the money he got for it please iâ´ll send you a check okay taylor will take you home stop no! ana christian

Book How To Be A Friend

[applause] tom hiddlestonis so [bleep] ugly. why is no oneacknowledging this? i don’t really understandhow anthony mackie got this far looking likea bug with buck teeth, but here we are. scarlett johanssonhas the emotional range of a [bleep] celery. i hate white people.

all of us? why do so many people havea crush on sebastian stan? he looks like a potato. winston duke broad as hellup top with crackhead legs. damn. elizabeth olsen hasweird [bleep] thumbs. it’s true.i do. i have weird thumbs. don cheadle look likea mix between a beetle–

that rhymes– amuskrat, and a roach. that’s just [bleep] up. from @wehatedbatista. follow this page ifyou hate dave bautista. he’s ugly, a complete joke,non talented, and he sucks. wow. benedict cumberbatchalways looks like he’s had an allergicreaction to bad shrimp. i bet tom holland isone of those whities

who claps when the plane lands. also while i’m comparingold men to reptiles, ever notice thatsamuel l jackson looks like a snapping turtle? if a girl girl wants to[bleep] paul rudd, chances are she’ll [bleep] you, too. hashtag paul rudd is [bleep]. karen gillan, once again,allow me to ask you who the [bleep] you think you are?

i don’t know. maybe i’m going to justhave to google myself. and this one is verysimple and to the point. paul bettany– what a [bleep]. how did thecoolest, blackest dude in the galaxy end upwith some whitebread-ass name like chadwick? if i said it once,i said it 600 times– chris pratt is still a [bleep].

perhaps chris evans isin truth a great actor, but he plays captainamerica like’s he’s a big, dumb hunk of [bleep]. wow, i don’t– thanks for watching. and remember, every time youclick the subscribe button, one of your enemiesgets destroyed.

Book How To Be A Big Brother

[music] i don’t like your little games don’t like your tilted stage the role you make me play of the fool no i don’t like you i don’t like your perfect crime how you laugh when you lie you said the fun was mine isn’t cool no i don’t like you but i got smarter i got harder in the nick of time but me i rose up once again i do it all the time

iv’e got a list of names and yours is in red underline i check it once then i check it twice oh ooh look what you made me do look what you made me do look what you just made me do look what you just made me ooh look what you just made me look what you just made me do i don’t like your kingdom keys they once belonged to me you asked me just to keep the peace lock me out and threw a feast what! the world moves on another day another drama drama but not for me not for me i don’t think you know what’s coming

and then the world moves on but one things for sure maybe i got mine but you’ll all get yours i check it once then i check it twice oh! look what to just made me do look what you just made me ooh look what you made me do look what you made me do look what you just made me do look what you just made me do

Book How To Avoid Huge Ships

hey guys! hey there, squid! how’s it going? tgs: mmmph. i’m kinda cranky right now. jessi: oh no. no one wants that. what’sbothering you? tgs: cruise ships. jessi: cruise ships? tgs: yeah, cruise ships. you know, those giantboats that you people sail around in. there’s been one floating above me all day, and ican’t get any sleep! i mean, it’s huge! and noisy! it’s likea floating city! so, instead of sleeping, i’ve just beenbobbing awake, staring at it, and wondering.

how does a giant ship like that float on thewater? i mean, heavy things sink in water, right?like when someone up there tosses a rock into the ocean — which happens, you know — itsinks. so why does that heavy ship get to float? jessi: the reason a big, heavy ship like thatcan float has to do with its shape. whether an object sinks or floats to beginwith has a lot to do with something called displacement. displacement is when an object displaces,or pushes aside, water. so, like, when you drop an ice cube into an already-full glassof water, some water spills out.

tgs: that’s displacement? jessi: that’s right — the amount of waterthat spills out is actually equal to the amount of space the ice cube takes up! or think about when you take a bath. tgs: hold up. wait. what’s a bath? jessi: well, up here, we like to clean ourselvesup by soaking in a tub full of nice warm, soapy water. tgs: that sounds gross! do that mean thathumans just walk around all day getting dirty? if you spent all of your time in the waterlike me, you’d never get dirty in the first

place. jessi: well, not everyone’s the same, right?i know some of the people watching here know what a bath is. tgs: mmmrph, okay. jessi: so, say you fill the bathtub up — allthe way to the top. and then you climb in. now there’s water on the floor. lots ofwater. the amount of water equal to the amount of space that you took up! now, one of the secrets to an object beingable to float, is that it has to displace enough water so that the water it pushes asideweighs as much as it does.

alright, so, say you’re in the tub and youwant to do an experiment. you can bring in a small bowl, and some rocks from your rockcollection. if you put the bowl in the water, it’llfloat. because the bottom of the bowl is displacing some water. and the amount of water that it’spushing aside weighs the same as the bowl. now, drop a little rock in there. add another, and another. the bowl is getting heavier, so it’s sinkinga little bit each time. but even though the bowl is heavier, it’salso displacing more water — so the amount of water that it’s pushing aside still weighsthe same as the bowl.

tgs: so what does that mean for the cruiseship? why doesn’t it sink? jessi: well, ships are designed to displaceas much water as possible. they’re realllly wide, and their bottomstend stretch down really far, so they push aside a lot of water. plus, a ship has lots of empty space insideit — a lot of it is hollow — which helps to keep it light, compared to the huge amountof water that it’s displacing. and voila… it floats. tgs: ok, ok. so that giant, noisy party overmy head right now is displacing enough water that it can float.

well, you people may be noisy, but the factthat you figured out how to build giant metal things that float… that’s pretty clever,i’ll give you that. jessi: yeah, and i don’t know about you, butsome of my favorite things tend to clever and noisy. thanks for joining squid and me,learning about displacement. see you next time! tgs: bon voyage!

Book How To Ask The Right Questions

– what i’m gonna tellyou for the next hour is informed by the scar tissue that i’ve experienced helpingthree billion square feet of north american real estate make energy efficiency decisions. in fact, april is my 20th anniversary. i started this industryright after i graduated from the wharton school. there are lots of things

that you can talk about in this business. but the first thing youhave to do is ask yourself are we asking the right questions? talk about the questionsyou’re gonna ask today. we heard a lot of talk aboutusing energy efficiency to drive revenue. ultimately you have toask yourself a question: where do projects come frombesides your construction? the other thing youask yourself inevitably

is what role could energy efficiency play in driving new revenue? now you ask these question, where even if you’ve identified a segment and you have identified the solutions or the answer to the segment, now you ask yourself, is it really about saving energy, or is it about something else?

in fact, do people value widgets? or analytics? or is it something totally different? then you have to askyourself the question, how do you really connectwith the right prospects? how do you capture adecision-maker’s attention? and you know how busy these people are that you’re selling to. especially the high-dollar sales.

the people with the large checkbooks are not the most accessible, right? and what do you say when you get there? it’s one thing to get a meeting with the veto, very important top officer, you know, ceo, coo, cto, e-i-e-i-o, yeah whatever they wanna call themselves. you get here, now you have to stay there. what do you say?

ultimately ask yourself this question, what would make themessage more compelling? and i think you’ll agree with me that if you could reframe efficiency so that it could bemeasured with yardsticks that your customer’s already using, you’d be way ahead of the game. (keyboard music)